Instead, now I am quite sure that there’s a very good chance I will find a like minded girl at Stanford or where I will end up working. I am just 23 so no I didn’t waste my 20s in completely just on my career. And I am telling you it’s much more satisfying. Where as after that I thought it’s time I do what’s necessary for my career, worked in a research field for a year, 12 hours a day literally all 7 days and now got into the one of the best universities in the world for my field (Stanford). I made good friends for sure and went out with quite a few but you will discover most women on bumble also are in the same cycle to find the perfect man and so they keep getting every match they want. My personality helped me get quite a lot of matches when I tried my hand at bumble (about 30-40) and trust me it’s no use, it makes you go into a viscous cycle of just trying to find more and feel gratification over your profile and you boil down “love” to mere stastistics on a fucking dating app. Well let me tell you since I have been on both sides. Looks like the post is written by a young adult. You'd atleast end up rich if you make career your only priority. įind balance but I'm sure if you make dating apps success your end game, you'd end up a sad person. Every other girl was amazing, and probably better than what i deserved, but it just didn't work.įinally, let me leave you with this because I totally believe this. I've had one amazing relationship from apps. How many succesful relationships you know from apps? I can safely say people around me have better relationships via other means. It's actually demeaning to get rated in 5 seconds based on quality of your photos. I'm not above hook-ups, but if you're a well adjusted adult, you want to be in a relationship with a person that matches your values. Dude, you will attract the person that matches your value. This sub has an issue with generalizing stuff. And, I'm sure no girl wants to date a guy who has no money long term. I don't wanna end up with a super hot girl that doesn't value her career. Will help you cut toxic people out of your life. Financial independence will help you evolve better. Your career comes first, the girl's career comes first. It's not bad to spend money on girl who loves you but it's not fulfilling to be with a woman who just wants comfort, money but is not receptive of your intimancy, love, desires, emotions. When someone will get older, they'll be like heyyy, I am old now and haven't managed to get anyone who will stay for life with me, then they'll prioritize their own comfort, ie off of your money. To them this man is most handsome, they reject wealthy men left and right for these.

I've came across many women who have choosen not so wealthy men because they fell in love with the sexy man. Just ask any older guy with money, money does one thing - it helps you get women who prioritize money.

Men and women bond over activities, conversation, adventure, sex etc. And since you'll crave, love intimacy you'll become alcoholic. Then what will naturally follow is that you'll end up with a woman who doesn't really value your personality, just things you bring. Well, you know what if you don't develop relationship skills now in your 20s, you'll end up with someone who values you for your provider qualities only.

There are some men who are telling you, that focus on studies and not relationships.

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